I can’t believe Christmas is already over! What a fun break!! I got to go home for the holidays and completely unplug and recharge my battery. I hope you all had a wonderful holiday season, and some of you I’m sure are still holidaying! It was a great time for me to think about my life and to see if it was where I wanted it to be. Uhhh – yeah I need to make some changes! But changes are good so I’m ready to get started! So here goes my new motto – “No excuses – make yourself”.
The past 6 months have been… tough. My poor husband lives off of fast food. The house is always a disaster. I can’t keep up with the tasks at hand. But why? Because I am pregnant. Now don’t get me wrong – pregnancy is hard! I never gave my sisters and friends enough credit!! I also want to step on a soapbox for a moment. Never judge a pregnant woman for anything that you wouldn’t do while being pregnant. I myself have done this and it came back to bite me in the butt big time! Don’t do it. Everyone’s pregnancy is different. Some have it easy, some have it hard, and some are on bed rest the. entire. time. We don’t know so therefore we just keep our mouths shut. Okay thanks, I am off of my soapbox.
This is my first pregnancy and so I didn’t know what to expect and I feel like it has been a hard one. I am sick a lot, I am swollen, and talk about growing pains. All I want to do is sit on the couch and watch TV! Alright, I am making my point I promise. My wonderful mother listened to my complaining and told me that she knows how hard it can be, but “sometimes you just have to make yourself”. It wasn’t what I wanted to hear, but dang it was what I needed to hear!
My new motto in the next 2 1/2 months is to stop making excuses and make myself. Do I feel good? No. Can I still get things done? Yes. Now, apply this to a personal situation that you have. What excuses are you making in your life? Please please please if you have a high risk pregnancy and are feeling guilty, do NOT “tough it out”. Take care of your baby and you first. Everything else will fall into place. Same goes with any other illness. But let’s be real – we are all making excuses that we really can overcome.
Find motivation! My motivation is that I am running out of time until this little baby gets here and I am not leaving my husband hanging. (We are also moving to Idaho in May and that is coming up way quicker than I thought). So… deadlines, loved ones, or a cleaner or better lifestyle, can all be motivation to get our rear in gear and step it up. Find that motivation and put it into action.
Okay soooo this can be hard! For me, anyways. I watched a video this morning that talked about millennials and why they are so hard to work with. I was interested because as someone who wants to reach out and help others love who they are, I have noticed that millennials can often be the ones who struggle with this the most. The video said that the millennial generation is the generation who has struggled the most with depression and having a low self-esteem. This was directly related to having excuses made for them, and making excuses themselves. There were things that I loved and things that I completely disagreed with, but it brought up a great point.
One way that we come to love who we are is by loving the process of getting there. We live in such an instant gratification world and it can be hard to be patient for things that take time. We can’t change overnight and so we make excuses of why we are the way we are. That can’t be healthy! And it isn’t! Realize that things can’t change overnight and start making goals of what you can do daily to reach your big and ultimate goal of where you want to be. Set a timeline and love the process.
If you want to watch the video that I am referring to you can watch it here.
The first thing that you need to do is figure out what is stopping you. What excuse is holding you back from being where you want to be? Once you figure out what it is, then you need to ask yourself how to get rid of it. “Make Yourself”. It’s going to be hard. You are probably going to mess up and have to start over a few times. You won’t get there tomorrow, but you CAN improve by tomorrow. Set goals that will help you improve each day. Love the process and love the small accomplishments. It is so important to love who you are – flaws and all – while telling yourself that you can and will be better tomorrow. Then actually believe it. Don’t judge another’s progress, as their 100% is different than your 100%. You Dew You, friends. Find yourself and don’t let go.