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Daily Goodies: January 16, 2017

What I Want My Daughter To Know About Gilmore Girls

Who else caught the Gilmore Girls bug? Heaven knows I’m not the only one! I waited anxiously, along with the rest of the women in the world, for Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life. I LOVED the first seven seasons of Gilmore Girls and cram watched them right before the new one came out. Watching them while pregnant with a little girl was so special to me! Lorelai and Rory’s relationship motivated me to have a fun and close relationship with my daughter. I do have to say – there are a few things that I want my daughter to know when we watch it together. (Because believe me, we are going to watch it together).

My family and I are BIG on collecting timeless classics on DVD. Gilmore Girls, in my humble opinion, is a timeless classic! You can buy the whole season collection here.

I am going to be completely honest in this review, but I believe in agreeing to disagree. If you disagree with me – that is okay! That is why I write on this blog. You dew you, my friends!

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Always be yourself

As much as I love the Gilmore ladies, I don’t like how Rory changes for the men that she dates. Now, don’t get me wrong – it is good to try new things and explore new hobbies with different people. However, I don’t think that pretending to be someone your not is healthy for you or for a relationship. Eventually you start to change and move away from who you really are, which is not good!

In the first few seasons, I loved Rory! She was a sweet, innocent girl who thought about others before herself. After changing who she was to impress different guys, she changed into a different Rory than we all knew and loved. At first, I was super disappointed in how this was written. But honestly, I think it is a great example to show my daughter what happens when you change who you really are for others.

It’s okay to depend on others

I admire Lorelai for many reasons! She handled her rough childhood like a real woman and she did what needed to be done, she worked hard for her and her daughter and never made excuses, and she was a fantastic business owner who always put her daughter first. I could go on and on… I loved Lorelai’s character.

gilmore girlsHowever! One thing that bugged me was that she felt like she needed to do everything on her own. She had so many people who loved her and was willing to help her out. But her dang pride! Luke was there, Sookie was there, the whole town was there! Honestly, I never blamed her for not wanting help from her parents (but I will talk about that later). Anywho! One thing that I want my daughter to know is that it is okay to depend on others as long as you are willing to let others depend on you.

The biggest thing that I want my daughter to know about this specifically, is that it is okay to depend on a man. *Gasp!* I realize that some women believe that they don’t need a man, and that’s okay! But if there is one readily available and wanting to partner up and help you out – there is nothing wrong with that. I want my daughter to now that her father and I are a team, we love each other, and we depend on each other. There are thinks that I can’t do without my husband – I deeply depend on him. I want my daughter to know that doesn’t make me any less of a woman.

It’s NEVER okay to cheat. Ever.

Ahem. Alright this BUGGED me. I hope I’m not the only one that was appalled when Rory slept with Dean after he was already married. Did I miss Dean? Yes. Did I want Rory to be friends with him? Yes. Did I want Rory to help Dean cheat on his wife!? NO! I loved Lorelai’s reaction and I thought that as a parent she handled it well. Their relationship suffered, but I am glad that Lorelai stood up for what she believed.

Then… I was willing to forgive her. I didn’t mind her relationship with Jessie – after all I think we all go through a phase of falling for the “bad boy”. (At least I did anyways). And I didn’t even mind Logan. Rory got to see the wild college scene with Logan and I don’t think that was a bad thing for her. BUT what I didn’t like was how she didn’t learn her lesson from cheating with Dean! In Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life, I was so disappointed in Rory’s behavior with the way she cheated on and forgot about her boyfriend with Logan… who also had a fiance! It made me sad, and I want my daughter to know that is NEVER okay.

Family isn’t Perfect… But you still love them

I hope and pray that my relationship with my sweet little daughter will develop into Lorelai and Rory’s relationship… not Lorelai and Emily’s. All I can say is that I am so grateful for my mother. I realize that it would be so difficult to have a daughter become pregnant in high school… ouch! You would feel so many different emotions, I am sure. However, I know that my mom would do everything in her power to help me through the experience and help me succeed. I always felt so bad for Lorelai with the way that Emily made her feel. There is no way I would accept help from someone who constantly made me feel like a bad daughter/mom. So I honestly can’t blame her for avoiding her parents at all cost.

Although Emily Gilmore annoyed the heck out of me, I admired Lorelai’s decision to encourage Rory to gain a relationship with her grandparents, even if she didn’t. I loved how the story unfolded after Richard Gilmore’s death and I wish it would have shown Lorelai and Emily making up. I want my daughter to know that her grandparents are people that she loves and respects, even with differences.

The Ending gilmore girls

WOW the ending!!! Talk about cliff hanger… where we may or maynot ever find out what happens! Doesn’t that kill you!? It has been a huge controversy throughout social media, but honestly I haven’t thought much about who the father is.. yada yada. But remember… this whole review is what I want my daughter to know so yeah, I can see how you can get caught up in the controversy.

There are two things that I want my daughter to know about the ending – 1) pregnancy is a real consequence of the way that Rory was living. Having one night stands and sleeping with a man who already has a fiance (or you know.. sleeping around at all) can lead to pregnancy! (Uh duh). But I want her to see this as an example of like wow it can happen to anyone. 2) She can come to me with ANYTHING. I want my daughter to be honest with me no matter what – even if I won’t like it. I have always admired Lorelai for that and I want my daughter to come to me and not avoid me.

Honestly, I was a little disappointed with the new addition to Gilmore Girls, but I am still and will always be a fan of this show. Be more like Lorelai and do your thing without caring what other people think! The world would be a much better place if we all stopped trying impress others and did what makes us happy.