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What I Want My Daughter To Know About Gilmore Girls

Who else caught the Gilmore Girls bug? Heaven knows I’m not the only one! I waited anxiously, along with the rest of the women in the world, for Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life. I LOVED the first seven seasons of Gilmore Girls and cram watched them right before the new one came out. Watching them while pregnant with a little girl was so special to me! Lorelai and Rory’s relationship motivated me to have a fun and close relationship with my daughter. I do have to say – there are a few things that I want my daughter to know when we watch it together. (Because believe me, we are going to watch it together).

My family and I are BIG on collecting timeless classics on DVD. Gilmore Girls, in my humble opinion, is a timeless classic! You can buy the whole season collection here.

I am going to be completely honest in this review, but I believe in agreeing to disagree. If you disagree with me – that is okay! That is why I write on this blog. You dew you, my friends!

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Always be yourself

As much as I love the Gilmore ladies, I don’t like how Rory changes for the men that she dates. Now, don’t get me wrong – it is good to try new things and explore new hobbies with different people. However, I don’t think that pretending to be someone your not is healthy for you or for a relationship. Eventually you start to change and move away from who you really are, which is not good!

In the first few seasons, I loved Rory! She was a sweet, innocent girl who thought about others before herself. After changing who she was to impress different guys, she changed into a different Rory than we all knew and loved. At first, I was super disappointed in how this was written. But honestly, I think it is a great example to show my daughter what happens when you change who you really are for others.

It’s okay to depend on others

I admire Lorelai for many reasons! She handled her rough childhood like a real woman and she did what needed to be done, she worked hard for her and her daughter and never made excuses, and she was a fantastic business owner who always put her daughter first. I could go on and on… I loved Lorelai’s character.

gilmore girlsHowever! One thing that bugged me was that she felt like she needed to do everything on her own. She had so many people who loved her and was willing to help her out. But her dang pride! Luke was there, Sookie was there, the whole town was there! Honestly, I never blamed her for not wanting help from her parents (but I will talk about that later). Anywho! One thing that I want my daughter to know is that it is okay to depend on others as long as you are willing to let others depend on you.

The biggest thing that I want my daughter to know about this specifically, is that it is okay to depend on a man. *Gasp!* I realize that some women believe that they don’t need a man, and that’s okay! But if there is one readily available and wanting to partner up and help you out – there is nothing wrong with that. I want my daughter to now that her father and I are a team, we love each other, and we depend on each other. There are thinks that I can’t do without my husband – I deeply depend on him. I want my daughter to know that doesn’t make me any less of a woman.

It’s NEVER okay to cheat. Ever.

Ahem. Alright this BUGGED me. I hope I’m not the only one that was appalled when Rory slept with Dean after he was already married. Did I miss Dean? Yes. Did I want Rory to be friends with him? Yes. Did I want Rory to help Dean cheat on his wife!? NO! I loved Lorelai’s reaction and I thought that as a parent she handled it well. Their relationship suffered, but I am glad that Lorelai stood up for what she believed.

Then… I was willing to forgive her. I didn’t mind her relationship with Jessie – after all I think we all go through a phase of falling for the “bad boy”. (At least I did anyways). And I didn’t even mind Logan. Rory got to see the wild college scene with Logan and I don’t think that was a bad thing for her. BUT what I didn’t like was how she didn’t learn her lesson from cheating with Dean! In Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life, I was so disappointed in Rory’s behavior with the way she cheated on and forgot about her boyfriend with Logan… who also had a fiance! It made me sad, and I want my daughter to know that is NEVER okay.

Family isn’t Perfect… But you still love them

I hope and pray that my relationship with my sweet little daughter will develop into Lorelai and Rory’s relationship… not Lorelai and Emily’s. All I can say is that I am so grateful for my mother. I realize that it would be so difficult to have a daughter become pregnant in high school… ouch! You would feel so many different emotions, I am sure. However, I know that my mom would do everything in her power to help me through the experience and help me succeed. I always felt so bad for Lorelai with the way that Emily made her feel. There is no way I would accept help from someone who constantly made me feel like a bad daughter/mom. So I honestly can’t blame her for avoiding her parents at all cost.

Although Emily Gilmore annoyed the heck out of me, I admired Lorelai’s decision to encourage Rory to gain a relationship with her grandparents, even if she didn’t. I loved how the story unfolded after Richard Gilmore’s death and I wish it would have shown Lorelai and Emily making up. I want my daughter to know that her grandparents are people that she loves and respects, even with differences.

The Ending gilmore girls

WOW the ending!!! Talk about cliff hanger… where we may or maynot ever find out what happens! Doesn’t that kill you!? It has been a huge controversy throughout social media, but honestly I haven’t thought much about who the father is.. yada yada. But remember… this whole review is what I want my daughter to know so yeah, I can see how you can get caught up in the controversy.

There are two things that I want my daughter to know about the ending – 1) pregnancy is a real consequence of the way that Rory was living. Having one night stands and sleeping with a man who already has a fiance (or you know.. sleeping around at all) can lead to pregnancy! (Uh duh). But I want her to see this as an example of like wow it can happen to anyone. 2) She can come to me with ANYTHING. I want my daughter to be honest with me no matter what – even if I won’t like it. I have always admired Lorelai for that and I want my daughter to come to me and not avoid me.

Honestly, I was a little disappointed with the new addition to Gilmore Girls, but I am still and will always be a fan of this show. Be more like Lorelai and do your thing without caring what other people think! The world would be a much better place if we all stopped trying impress others and did what makes us happy.


What I Learned From Watching “Moana”

Hello friends. Again – Merry Christmas! Zach and I are in Cortez for the holidays and are having so much fun! (This is why I have been so slow lately, I am enjoying my family time). Tonight we went to the movies with my parents to see the new Disney movie, “Moana”. Alright so, we need to talk about this movie! I thoroughly enjoyed this movie, but more importantly it taught something that the world really needs to learn right now.

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Warning! There may be some spoilers in this article, so if you haven’t seen the movie and you want to I would save it for after you see the movie.

First, The Disney Short

There is a new Disney short before the movie and I think it prefaced the movie quite nicely. It is called “Inner Workings”, go look it up! This cute short is all about the battle between our heart and our brain. And let’s be real – the battle is constant! It cracked me up. It brings up a true point though; we need to listen to our hearts sometimes as much as our brains. Don’t get me wrong – logic is super important. But we need to remember that happiness is what we strive for. Don’t get caught up in the routine everyday, we need to remember to have fun and make our life a life that we want to live!

Sound Familiar? Me Too!

Funny story. Well, you may think it is funny but it is my life haha. I use this example all of the time and I am sure my husband is sick of it. But I learned so much about happiness from this experience so I am going to tell it again. Go me.

So I had this perfect idea of what I wanted my life to be like. I was going to marry a cowboy and live in the middle of nowhere with tons of kids and be very poor. Haha really though. Well God and my heart wanted different things, but logic tried to fight it out. I met my husband and as soon as he said he was from California my brain took my heart strings and tied them up so I wouldn’t be tempted! Then my brain realized that I really needed to find balance and let my heart be in charge too.

That’s when I realized that God knows me better than I know myself and He knew that I would be happier with Zach than I would with the idea of what I thought I wanted. He was right!! I can’t imagine my life any other way. Find the balance people!

It’s hard to find the balance that we need – but it is possible!

Okay — Moana!

First of all, everyone needs to see this movie! It is cute, funny, has good morals, and has the most adorable animals in it! Hello! Need I even continue!? The beginning of the movie was hard for me to get into as everything had to be set up, but as the movie went on it got better and better. I definitely recommend seeing it – great entertainment.

The Moral of the Story (for me) Is:

However, that’s not what I want to tell you. This movie is teaching us something that we all need to remember. As a society, we definitely don’t know who we are. “It’s not cool to be different”, “It’s not cool if you are mainstream”, “If you’re not different, you don’t like people who are”, “It’s embarrassing to be proud of your culture/heritage”, “We need objects to define who we really are”. LIES LIES LIES!! And if we look around, that is what we are going to find!

I know that I am guilty of thinking that way or trying to change who I really am to impress people. But, NEWS FLASH: If someone doesn’t like you for who you really are, they are the problem. Not you. If someone plays the “you don’t like me because I’m different” card, then well that is their loss.

Sorry I will get off of my soapbox, but I feel so strongly about that. Be who YOU want to be. Not what someone else wants you to be. Moana loved the water and she knew that she belonged there. She never gave up and she was able to save her people because of that talent that was given to her. She taught Maui something even more important. He doesn’t need his hook to be Maui. HE is who makes him who He is. Not an another object, not another person.

Relate-able? Um yes.

I just kept thinking about my little girl during the movie and want her to learn what Moana learned. I want my daughter to know who she is, be proud of who she is, and stand up for who she is and what she believes in.

I am SO grateful for my parents who taught me to remember who I am. My mom taught me that I have every reason to be confident and that being a Child of God was the most important reason to be confident in myself. My dad taught me to be self sufficient and that I can do anything that I put my mind to. I faced a lot of “but you’re a girl” bull crap throughout growing up and my dad always had my back and told me that it didn’t matter. When I left for college I didn’t realize how much I would need to hold on to the times that my dad fought so hard for me to learn that I was just as tough as anyone out there. It paid off and still is.

How Do We Get There?

I realize that not everyone is taught that and it’s a real struggle. I have great parents and I still doubt my self confidence sometimes. So what do we do in these situations? It’s time to dig deep people! Just like Moana, if we have to continue to repeat to ourselves who we are to believe it – then that’s what we’ve got to do! She knew she was a strong and powerful girl, descendants of voyagers, who could save her people. But she was not as confident in the beginning as she was in the end. It took some hard work for her to get there, just as it will take hard work for us. Think about who you are. Become proud of who you are. Decide on who you want to become and use your past to help you.

Doubting – Dang It, It Happens

Another thing that I LOVED about this movie is it showed Moana’s low points. She doubted herself, she doubted who she was, and she doubted her resources. Okay… okay… let’s think about this. Strength can be hard! Digging deep for that confidence in ourselves can sometimes feel impossible. But guess what!? THAT IS OKAY!! We are human and by golly we can’t be strong all of the time. Break down and cry it out. Take a break and stop thinking about it for awhile. But guess what again!? Strength will ALWAYS find it’s way back! Sometimes we have to fall down to get back up again. Just make sure that when you fall down, you fall on your knees.

The Testing Point

There is going to come a time where we are completely tested on how confident we are and if we have the strength to show what we’ve really got. Through hard work, Moana was able to restore Te Fiti back to her original beauty and save the lives of all her people, not to mention the beautiful islands.

Now, our purpose in life may not be as “glorified”, but let me tell you we have important jobs! Never doubt that you aren’t making a difference in this world. Everyone makes a difference. Knowing who we are helps us to know what our impact is and how we can impact others.I think that’s the ultimate test. Yes, Moana saved all of the people, but look what she did for Maui! In my mind, that was just as important.

As I watched this movie, I thought about how this is exactly what You Dew You is all about. It is important to love yourself, be confident in yourself, and remember who you are. The world would be such a better place if we all understood how much each of us are worth. Please don’t forget the importance you are in the world. Research your family history. Use your heritage to help you decide who you are and who you want to be. You dew your thing, my friend. You dew you.

Foodies Unite! – It’s All About That Sausage

Alright, so who on earth doesn’t like sausage!? I can’t imagine not liking sausage! You can make sausage with anything – pork, beef, lamb, elk, venison, bison, alligator, freak.. even vegetables if you’re not into the meat thing. My point is, I’m pretty sure sausage can be for anybody. To each their own!  Backing up… For my husbands birthday in November, I surprised him with taking a hunters education course. We both love hunting and the great outdoors and so I thought it would be a fun thing to do together. But, I didn’t think it would turn out as awesome as it actually did! Our instructor was amazing! We learned so much from him and he kept us entertained. So naturally, when he said that he offered a sausage making class, we were gonna be there!

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Note: This is not an affiliated marketing article! It is honestly a recommendation of a great place with good people.

Anyways. Back to my story. We went to this class last Saturday and learned all about sausage making, food safety, and obviously ate delicious sausage. I thought to myself – the world needs to know about this! So here I am, telling you how amazing this was. It was held at P2K Shooting Range here in El Cajon, California and our instructor was the great, Steve Shaw. There are so many great classes, seminars, and camps that you can take at this shooting range! If you are a Southern Californian please check them out! I myself have taken a handgun course, hunters safety, and this sausage making class and have been pleased with all of them.

Now, to be fair to Steve and his family, I’m not going to share any of his family recipes because they are golden (yes, you are missing out), but they are not mine to share. Although there are a list of websites that I’ve been playing around with that I will share with you.

Sausage Making

Okay first of all, there were some delicious looking recipes that I found on the Sausage Mania website. So if you are looking for somewhere to start, there are some recipes there, but you could also start on pinterest or just google recipes. Find a recipe that looks delicious to you and take the leap of faith! Now, take everything that I say with a grain of salt, as I am learning as well! There will be many follow up posts about my journey in sausage making because… well… I have a lot to learn! And I am excited to play!

Everything that I say on here is what I learned from Steve Shaw in my amazing sausage class. I am giving you a summary of what you can learn in classes like these! Believe me – I do not know enough to teach you about this and it cannot replace a class, but I do want to motivate you to learn how to do it yourself! Find a class! Do your research! It’s amazing!


I learned several things in preparation. First of all, if you just want to find a good butcher and skip all of this – good on ya! I was told (by my mighty instructor) that if you are looking for a good butcher, you will know how good they are by the sausage that he/she makes. Boom! Go find that yummy sausage and all you need to do is deliver the meat. I won’t lie.. I will probably do that more often than not. BUT I am so into this and am excited to keep learning.


First, don’t cheap out on tools. Use tools that were built for the intended purposes of what you will use them for! Kitchenaids are all well and good… but they weren’t made specifically for that purpose and won’t be as good as a meat grinder that was intended to do just that – grind meat. A kitchenaid would be good if you were only working with 1-2 lbs. You might need a food scale, it would be helpful to be able to weigh your meat. If you are working with mass amounts of meat, you will definitely need a large amount of spices. Costco those babies! Or Amazon Prime.. I love Amazon Prime. Proper tools can be bought on the Sausage Maker website or I know my dad has Cabela’s brand and it works great. Moral of the story – don’t cheap out. You get what you pay for.

Grinding the Meat

I learned that you grind the fat first (frozen), followed by grinding the meat. You don’t want the meat to be frozen, but you want it to be firm and ice crusty. Grind, then add the spices, then grind again. Be careful because if you grind too much, or emulsify when you mix in the spices… then you got yourself a hot dog. You really need to go to professionals for help on the grinder, how it works, the pounds of meat per pounds of fat, spice ratio, and more helpful tidbits that I learned. Again – I am not qualified to tell you how to do it, but I am trying to convince you that it’s worth the time to learn!

Be Safe

Now, I am going to start out by saying that my journey in the sausage making world will not make it past the fresh sausage. My husband may be brave and venture into the curing process because he loves salami (I do too, but I don’t want to accidentally kill my family). Learning and knowing about curing is suuuuuuper important! I ain’t about that life. I want to make my meat and eat it in the same day sooo that’s all the help I’m going to be. But if you are about that life, be safe and learn the differences in curing. I do know that the different types of curing are not interchangeable. Confused? Me too. Sorry, I won’t be help with curing but I know that classes will help you and prepare you to get out there and make the best salami out there. You dew you, my friend.

Other safety topics! Cooking temperatures.  That’s another tool you will need – meat thermometer. Make sure that the temp of the inside of the meat is at least at 165 degrees. My wise instructor liked the meat to be at least at 170 degrees and I full heartedly agreed with that. Be safe, my friends.

Stuffing that Sausage

There is so much that goes into this and so I apologize already that this is going to be slim pickins. So again… find that class and do your research! (Again, Southern California, you have great resources under your noses).

Anywho. You will need sausage casing, which again can be bought on the Sausage Maker website. It is common for our society to freak out about fat. Understandable… but pish posh! Good sausage needs good fat content in my opinion. You need that flavor and that moisture filled sausage. My instructor advised us to use pork fat with whatever meat we are using to make the sausage. If you are into wild game, the fat might be too much of a gamy taste for you. *Mmm gamy* (quote that movie! If you didn’t get it.. it’s the wiener dog from Open Season, you uncultured swine).

Casings come at 2-2.5 ft per 1 lb of meat. Make sure to soak the casings overnight before you use it in fresh water.

If you want “chunkies” (i.e. onions, cheese) then you add it to the meat after grinding and before stuffing. If you grind it with the meat… that defeats the purpose of “chunkies”.

Oh! Also important! Before you commit to stuffing your sausage, make yourself a patty, fry it up, and test it out. If it is delicious – get stuffin! If it needs work – go back to the drawing boards and improve the spicing. I’m not going to go into actually stuffing the sausage because there is a lot that you need to know about it and let’s just say this is the cliff hanger that you need to go investigate. 😉

Get Cookin’ sausage-making

I hope that this has motivated you to learn more about sausage making. I think it is so fun!! If it’s not your thing – that’s ok! You dew you, right. This is me doing me and I wanted to share it with you! Also, a shout out to Steve Shaw and the other great instructors at the P2K Shooting Range. My husband and I are active supporters of this shooting range. We haven’t been to the range in quite awhile since I am pregnant and the noise is a little too loud for Squirt’s little ears, but we will definitely be going back. Eat your heart out my friends! Life is too short to waste on nasty food.