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My Life is NOT Put Together… And That’s Okay!

By the show of hands – how many of you have your life completely and 100% put together all of the time!? If you do, this post is definitely not for you! Please comment and tell me ALL of your secrets because I need all of the help I can get. I am the type of personality that has severe stress in their life. “Oh, she must have a rough life” you may be thinking. Haha! Not even! I stress about everything. I stress about stress before there is even anything to stress about. The weather isn’t what I thought it would be!? Stress. My hair has a funny bump in it? Stress. I can’t get the dang horse to load in the trailer? (Haha funny story.. but not really). Stress.

My dad always tells me that stress is going to be the thing that kills me – I will literally die of stress. Did you even know that’s a thing!? Because it totally is… and it would happen to me. But I have made the decision that stress is not going to run my life. My life is not and will never be “put together” and I am completely okay with that! I’m going to enjoy living in the mess of life! Yep! That’s my life now. 🙂

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(However if you do need help coping… here are some stress balls that I totally recommend. Just squeeze through the pain of life haha. Not joking though.) 

Let the little things go. Nope. Shhhh. Let them go.

Every person has their favorite thing to stress over… you know, that pet peeve that drives you crazy. Mine is having a dirty house. I am a complete grinch when the house is dirty. But instead of rolling up my sleeves and doing a little bit at a time, I complain about it grouchily and stress about it while I sit there reading a book. Does that even make any sense? No. No it does not. Then there is the other side of me that has everything in it’s place and as soon as the dogs walk on my dirty floor I think the world is going to end. There is not an in-between me. It’s one or the other.

What is the problem with the entire situation? Stress! If I could just do my best and work on little things at a time and then FORGET about it until I face the situation again, life would be so much easier. Remember that there will always be dirty clothes, dirty dishes, and cute little hand prints and paw prints everywhere. That’s the life! And you know what? That’s a pretty dang good life. Let the little things GO and don’t think about them until you need to.


Get enough sleep

This one is a huuuuuuge problem for me. Right now is especially taking it’s toll as I am in my 3rd trimester and sleeping just isn’t in the cards for me. Turns out I am a grumpy lady when I don’t sleep enough.. huh. Who knew. Stress is one of the biggest causes of not sleeping well. So many people lay and think about their problems instead of sleeping. It’s hard to do! I have been doing that all week because of this silly horse that we love oh so much, but want to strangle at the same time. Learn to compartmentalize and rest at night so that  you feel at least somewhat refreshed the next morning. Life is never going to be perfect, but sleeping helps us face the day to day tasks!

Take it one day at a time

I have found that this advice works great for me. If I can just make it through one day, then I can make it through tomorrow. Honestly, there aren’t many things in life that lead me to this much desperation – but at times it seems hard to make it through the day. I remember when my niece and my sister-in-law were in this hospital and it felt like my whole family had to take it one day at a time. Those were rough times! But through the help of Jesus Christ and through finding small accomplishments and miracles throughout the day, we realized that it was possible. Again, no one’s life is perfect and we are just silly to think that!

Don’t compare yourself to others

Stop trying to keep up with the Jones’. I promise you, their life isn’t as perfect as you think it is. I always pictured myself to be like some pregnant women that I knew who always had their make-up on, their finest clothes, cute shoes, and the “pregnancy glow”. Mmhmm I was going to be like that! Hahaha let’s all laugh together. That is NOT the pregnancy that I have. It’s a great day when my make-up is on before noon – much less at all. But there are a few things that I didn’t ever consider.

  1. Everyone’s trials are different. Everyone’s pregnancy is different. Sure, that may be one smokin’ mama, but her pregnancy may be relatively easy while her life holds very different and very hard trials for her.
  2. It very well may be a wall, and we only see the exterior. I don’t know about you guys, but I am pretty dang good at putting up a wall when I don’t want anyone to see the truth. It happens to anybody.

The best person to compare yourself to is to you! Push yourself. Focus on the good things about others and about you.

Find the good and hold onto it! stress

The best way to stop stressing (besides using good stress fighting objects) is to find the positive in each situation. Sometimes that can be hard! But guaranteed it works! Make sure to find time in your busy schedule to find hobbies and do them! Take time out of your day to quilt, read, spend time in the mountains, or whatever it is that helps you gain new perspective on life. I love to sit down to a good book or spend some good quality time in the outdoors to help relieve my stress and be ready for a fresh start again. Don’t feel guilty to take time for you. It’s important to relieve stress and get a new take on life!

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