It doesn’t matter if you have kids, thinking about having kids, experienced this through the eyes of a loving and patient husband, or if you are pregnant right now… the one thing that we all know is DON’T mess with a pregnant mama! Haha let’s take a moment and laugh about this. After all, it is a funny stereotype right? Uhh yeah sure unless you are at the brunt of it. Or the one going through it. Then, well, it might not be as funny.
The term “mama bear” should be found in the dictionary right under “Pregnant”. It makes sense! All of the hormones are surging through these poor women’s bodies and let’s be honest, they can’t help it! So let’s talk about what a beautiful thing is happening! This woman is sacrificing life and limb, being forced out of her comfort zone, and bringing a new life into the world. Incredible! So why is it, that it’s socially acceptable to judge every single step of this journey?
As a pregnant woman, there is nothing more frustrating than someone who likes to tell you exactly what you should be doing. I will try to leave the disgusting bits out – because if only everyone knew what happens to the body – just ew. Haha! But really this is an uncomfortable time! Please just leave the poor mother alone and let her do her thing. I don’t know if this is just a me thing, but it is hard to feel good while being pregnant. You feel big, bloated, ugly, and slobbish. It’s hard to feel good about yourself anyways – much less with the “know it alls” that judge you on your every move. So… let’s talk about the “No-No’s of Pregnant Mom Shaming”.
There is a REASON that you don’t want to mess with a pregnant woman… and these are why!
Ahhhh I don’t even know where to begin with this! First of all, do you even have kids!?! If you do, imagine someone telling you not to worry about your kids. Does it even make sense!? Yes, pregnancy is complicated. Yes, there are a lot of things that come up that aren’t anything to worry about. But it’s not you going through it!!
Unless you are the OB/GYN that is taking care of the pregnant mother… for the love of good brown gravy DO NOT tell her that she has nothing to worry about. It doesn’t matter what pregnancy you are on, your 1st or your 9th, you are still going to worry about that little baby. Even if the pregnancy is healthy as can be with no red flags… the mom is going to worry. Let her worry. Let her be a mom. Mind your own P’s and Q’s. The end.
As a pregnant mother running off of about 3 good hours of sleep from last night… I will seriously throat punch the next person that tells me this. It doesn’t matter how much I love you… If you say this to me… RUN! Now, I realize that the people who say this mean well and they have a great point. But that’s the thing. We already know that we are going to get zero sleep once that sweet little baby is here. Hearing that we probably won’t sleep again until we die is not exactly something that pregnant women want to hear. Can you blame them? It’s also not like you can store sleep… because if I could then you wouldn’t even need to remind me to do so! Just shhhh about sleep subjects and we too will pretend it is a fantasy.
Honestly, this one doesn’t bother me as much. I’ve had several people touch my belly without asking and it’s never bothered me. Unless it’s a stranger (Yes that really does happen! Who does that!?). But, stop and think about it, it’s pretty rude to just reach out and rub someone else’s body part. Quite weird actually. If you are dying to touch at least have the decency to ask. It cracks me up because my mom and my mother-in-law are the best at asking. When really they should be the ones to just reach out and grab. I admire their manners… Everyone else should too. Ask before you touch people!
Should this really have to be on my list!? Should you ever just comment on anyone’s weight!? The world though… it shocks me. I have heard several times from people that I know very well to people that i hardly know comment on my weight. It’s all been different. Some say, “wow you look so small, she must be a small baby”. Others say, “remember that you are going to have to get that weight off after she get’s here”. Can I just say that neither of those comments make me feel good. Pregnancy is a sensitive time! Leave the poor women alone!
My pregnancy has been a rare one according to my doctor. This sweet little girl has a big daddy (lucky Mama hehe) and has been measuring very large during each appointment. Until recently. Her weight has been fluctuating to the point of being very very big to being very very small over just a few weeks. I gained 20lbs between two appointments and then only 1lb the next. My doctor has been confused and worried about this, especially with other signs that have come up in earlier ultrasounds. When I hear comments about my weight, it makes me feel like a failure and it makes me worry even more about my little girl.
So 1 – you never know what mom’s are going through! Shut your mouths and say things like, “you look great” because no matter what, a pregnant woman looks great! And 2 – refer back to “No-No #1” and never ever ever tell the mom to not worry. You don’t know what it’s like to be in her position.
I am going to gain as much weight as I gain and that’s that. Will it stick to me like glue? Maybe. Will it be super hard to get off? Maybe. But you know what? I don’t care what weight I have as long as my little baby get’s here safely and healthily. So back off people… weight is such a frivolous thing and we need to stop worrying about it. Let the mom worry about it ok? Ok. 🙂 Remember what they are going through – sheesh they are always beautiful!
There are millions of people on this planet and no family is the same. Each family has their own plans, goals, and aspirations. It’s as simple as that! One woman is going to be in the middle of a huge career when she decides to have a baby. Another woman is going to be in the middle of getting her degree when she decides to have a baby. The fact is, there is no “easy” way to raise a child. So why don’t we let each mom decide what is best? Will it be hard? Yes. Is it anyone else’s business besides the parents? No. It will all work out! Let her figure it out. 🙂
I’ve always believed in letting other people do their own thing. As you can see from this whole post… I am very passionate and opinionated about this topic (maybe because I have been in these situations). But, I believe that it is sooo important to let others live the lives that they think is best for them in general! Unfortunately, it is socially acceptable to be judgemental and tell others how to live their lives. But you know what? It’s really not. It’s rude and degrading. If you are worried about someone else, there are so many helpful and positive things that you can do for them! Serve them, pray for them, tell them that you are always there for them if they need advice, but don’t gossip about them. You dew you, and never apologize for it.
New Year, New Me? Or whatever makes you feel good inside… no matter the reason, I have a delicious and healthy recipe for you to try! Hot Pepper Jelly Fish… Not to be confused with Hot Pepper Jellyfish. Ahahaha. (Okay yes I know my sense of humor is dry). So you might want to call it Hot Pepper Jelly Tilapia. Whatever floats your boat!
My pregnancy has been fast and furious…. and I am talking about my weight! The cravings for pizza, nachos, and all of the unhealthy food you can get your hands on is REAL. Fighting it is super hard, but it’s a lot easier when you have the goods. And let me tell you… I have the goods! Zach and I are lovers of hot pepper jelly’s. We have tried an array of assortments and love most of everything that we have tried. (Tip: Hot pepper jelly + cream cheese + crackers = heaven). We can talk about all of the yummy things that you can do with these delicious preserves later. For now… tilapia! Or really any fish that you like. Tilapia is just one of my favorites.
I mean just look at it.. is your mouth watering already?
Okay guys you wouldn’t believe how easy this recipe is!! I am sitting here looking at the recipe I wrote down and wondering… am I missing anything!? Nope! I’m not. That’s how dang easy this was. Busy moms, wives, and workin’ women are going to love this! And don’t let me forget the men… Eating super healthy meals is not my husband’s favorite idea of a good meal, but he actually loved it!
I used parchment paper and a cookie sheet, but next time I think I will use a regular baking dish so that it is easier to get all of the yummy sauce. You could also use rice instead of quinoa. Honestly, I will probably use rice because my husband likes it better than quinoa, but I am trying to eat healthier right now. This meal goes GREAT with another recipe that I am going to add soon that my husband made – pan fried asparagus. Stay tuned.
As much as I don’t like eating healthy, it sure does so much for your body and your mind. Eating right, getting enough sleep, and exercising are all things that we hear we should be doing over and over again…. but maybe that’s the point. I feel best about myself when I am taking care of myself! Good luck in the New Year with all of that goal setting! Keep You Dew You in mind when you need some help staying motivated with your goals! 🙂
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!
Alright guys. I have the secret to success in 2017. Wanna hear it!? It’s really a deep secret that only I have access to – which I’m about to share…. Okay jokes. That’s not true at all. In fact, it is simple. But, I PROMISE that it is secret worthy enough that it will actually work.. ok.. here it is.
Whaaaaaat!? No way. Alright so here is some real talk right now. I learned this little “secret” a very long time ago. But because I am such an imperfect human, I always need to go back and re-evaluate myself on this and sometimes, I’m just so far off it’s not even funny. But it is okay! This is why we have a God and our Savior. We are given 2nd, 3rd, 4th, and 5th chances because they LOVE us and want us to be with them. What better time to re-evaluate your relationship with God than in the New Year? It’s a great time to start.
I’ve always been a huge fan of the “New Year, new me” resolutions. Unfortunately (and I am sure I am not the only one haha) I have never been super successful with them. Oh the first week of the year is fantastic! After that… not so much.
My only New Years resolution this year is to put God first. Why? Because that encompasses all other resolutions. Boom! You have a good relationship with God – He helps you improve yourself. Bada bang, bada boom. I have never made this my New Years resolution, but I have seen this work in my life. And let me tell you – it’s pretty dang cool!
Putting God first is the best thing that you can do! My husband and I have seen this definitely in real life… mostly with finances, but with everything! When you worship God, praise Him, pray everyday, read your scriptures, and keep a good relationship, He takes care of you. It’s as simple as that.
We are moving to Idaho in a few short months to continue our education. And uh… yeah we all know that ain’t cheap! We decided when we got married to give it 1 1/2 – 2 years to start our family so that we can be more stable financially. HA! About 9 months into our marriage we both felt like it was time to start our family. After praying about it, we took the plunge and in 10 short weeks our cute little baby will be here!! It’s been a scary ride and I know it will continue to be, but guess what? We are being taken care of. Starting a family was the best thing we could have done and we can’t imagine our lives without this cute little Squirt.
“Alright, Cheyenne. That works for you, but how in the heck is it going to work for me?” I am not here to tell you that this is what you should do. You can live your life as you please. Buuuuut I can tell you that it works! There is definitely more than one way to put God first in your lives. Find your way and stick to it!
While perusing through Facebook like I do every morning, I found one of my favorites – Kristina Kuzmic – truth bombing about her New Year’s resolution. I was like yaaaas! Preach! I am not the most positive person either, but being positive, giving others the benefit of the doubt, having faith that everything is a going to be okay, are all great places to start!! If you want to see the video that Kristina Kuzmic talks about being positive, you can see it here.
So that is the secret my friends!! It’s not much of a secret… but put it to the test. I know without a doubt that God watches out for His children and He wants us to be happy! Trust that and trust Him by putting Him first in all things. He made your personality the way it is for a reason! He loves you and wants you to love you too.
Good luck in the New Year! It will be a fun road together!
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I’m pretty sure that I am a low-key hoarder. Don’t get the wrong idea here – I am not buried by disgusting stuff. BUT I do hold on to a lot of items that mean so much to me…. and I have no idea why! Am I the only one with this problem?? I can’t be, right!? After going home and visiting my organized and very clean Mother, I learned a lot about organization by following her example. Her kitchen is practically perfect! And the differences are so small, there were things that I knew I could change. I racked my brain on the 12 hour drive home and came up with this beauty of a list of how I could change my life! The past few days I have been implementing my ideas and it is so refreshing! So here it goes guys. 5 quick ways to get yourself organized!
Start with one room – and focus on only that room – and pick up everything you own in that room. Do you really need it? Do you really use it? Have a box ready to put that stuff in and ready to take OUT of your house. Sometimes you won’t be in such a drastic situation and may just need to switch things up. Mostly for my sake, but I hope you benefit from it as well – let’s go through each room.
Cracked dishes? Yes, your husband could glue it together and you could keep it and look at the cute bowl that you used to use all of the time, or you could just get rid of it. In a week from now will you really remember it anyway? Stained tupperware? Gross. And yes I am guilty of this. I never use it, but I think I will one day so I hold on to it! Rubbish! Literally throw that thing in the rubbish. Old food storage? Clean that crap out and replace it. Make meal plans around your food storage that you need to get rid of. Stale and old snacks need to go. Pretty much the best advice that I have is to go through each cupboard, clean it out, and only replace what you will use and/or eat.
I don’t have the luxury of having one of these. But I am hoping in a few months that I will!! Woot woot. For the sake of it, let’s talk about cleaning supplies in this room. Are there any cleaning supplies that you don’t use? Is your old Swiffer hanging out even though you haven’t used it in years? Trash. Is your mop disgusting and full of dirt? Clean it or throw it asap. When Zach and I were first married, we got a lot of cleaning supplies which were wonderful! But I will be honest, there are some that I have never used. Get rid of it! What about old boots, coats, rugs? Look around to see what you can give away, put in storage, or even just throw out.
Raise of hands, who holds on to old magazines? Me too. If not – wow good job! I aspire to be like you one day. Throw out those old issues! They burn great and can be recycled. Do you still keep your DVD’s in their cases? HA! I was the worst. Zach offered to throw away all of the cases when we were first married and I wouldn’t let him. For some reason I had to hold on to them! Stupid haha.
I finally came around and put all of our DVD’s and CD’s in a large case and it was the best thing ever. I saved soooo much room by doing it. Now we have two large cases of DVD’s and CD’s in a small area. Genius. Same goes with video games if you play. Go through all of your cords and see if there are any unnecessary cords or devices that you can get rid of.
Clothes, clothes, clothes and clothes. I am the WORST at hoarding clothes and shoes, the worst! Now, there’s a lot of things that you can do to downsize your clothes – even without getting rid of them. With this pregnancy and buying/gaining lots of new clothes, I have found ways to save space without having to rid of my precious clothing. First of all, get in there and get rid of the clothes that you don’t ever wear. I know there are lots of places that you can sell clothing online. It never worked for me, but I know others are into it. I prefer to just give mine away to family or thrift stores. When you are super attached to clothes and don’t want to get rid of them, put them in storage for awhile. It’s like Christmas when you open them up again!
The same goes with shoes. As a fat pregnant lady, I have saved so much room by putting my skinny clothes in storage until I can wear them again. Torn or stained sheets? Just throw them away. Too many pillow cases? Get rid of the ones that you never use. Get smart with all of the thousands of blankets. Use some of the older ones to store breakable items. I have great expectations with using my high school soccer and volleyball gear, but in all reality I never use them. That will depend on you if you want to get rid of them or put them in storage.
I am a huge book worm and collect books like none other. There are some that I will never read again and will donate to thrift stores or book stores, but I mostly put the ones I don’t read into storage for later or for my future children. I use my other book lover friends for my advantage and put my name in it, record it, and lend them out. Not only do they love borrowing my books, but that saves room for me! Win, win. 😉 Filing paperwork. This is a hard one for me. Luckily, if I keep everything filed it saves a lot of room and looks much cleaner.
Ahhh the bathroom. Does anyone else hoard soaps and shampoos like I do!? I admit.. I am pretty high maintenance when it comes to make-up and hair products. But because they are so expensive, I have a hard time throwing them away when they don’t have much left or when I don’t like them as well. I also have an emergency storage of make-up (although I still think that is a great idea and leave that bag alone). Look for products that are past their best by date and get rid of them. Are you going to ever use that lotion? Gone. Get rid of anything old or that you know you won’t use in the next month. Get rid of old and torn towels – or at least demote them to garage or car use.
You might laugh at this one! But I swear it saves soooo much room! My mother’s kitchen is a dream. For lots of reasons, but one of the biggest is that all of her grocery bags are nicely folded into a tissue box, ready to pulled out and used. It may take a lot of effort, but it’s amazing! Since Zach and I are moving in May – not to mention the new grocery bag law here in California – we have been hoarding plastic bags for safe traveling and saving money at the grocery store. We had hundreds! Hundreds! I’m not even exaggerating. My entire cupboard under the kitchen was dedicated to plastic bags.
It took me about two hours to organize that cupboard since it was so bad, but I folded each bag and put it into a paper bag. It saved me enough room to move all of my cleaning supplies under the sink to save a whole cupboard for our sweet new baby in a few months. Now my cupboard is perfectly organized and I have so much room saved!
I hate wrapping paper. I love wrapping! But I hate storing all of the gift wrap and wrapping paper. Just for example… there are many things I need but I hate keeping around. The best thing to do is downsize and then buy some cheap bins and label that crap. Forgive me, but let’s be real… a lot of it is just crap. BUT! It’s so much easier to find when everything is labeled. Going back to my mom’s kitchen – she has replaced everything with bins and labeled it. Instead of always saying, “Mom, where is this?”, I can see it plain as day in front of my eyes. She has sugar, oats, flour, and even powdered sugar in nice bins and labeled. This can go with anything, not just in the kitchen. I put my material, dresses, halloween costumes, wrapping paper, gift bags, and yes kitchen items in bins.
Keeping everything in a bin and labeled allows you to throw things in storage or keeping them easily accessible both an easy option. I personally think that spending a few extra dollars on keeping my brain sane is worth it!
This drives my husband nuts, I’m sure. He loves a spic and span car. But I wouldn’t be able to make it without using my car for some extra storage space. I keep a sleeping bag, lawn chairs, 72 hour kit, horse supplies, and all of my errand stuff in there. If I leave my grocery bags or thrift store bags in the house, I will never remember to take them and they will live by my front door forever. Putting them in my trunk get’s them out of my house and even though I still forget at least 3 times, I remember to get it done eventually! I also keep a sleeping bag and lawn chairs in there for emergencies or conveniences, but it also get’s them out of my way. It’s a small suggestion, but I honestly do use my trunk for storage space! Haha.
Finally! I have found that having every single thing that I own in one place is just a recipe for disaster. I get overwhelmed super easily and then we live in a pigsty because I can’t decide what to do with everything. Solution! I pick a theme or a pattern of some kind and try my best to follow it. Whatever decorations I choose to display with stay up for however long while I store the others… then rotate! I also do this with clothes and shoes to save space. Obviously not everyone has the space to store all of this stuff, so if not I guess the next step is to downsize and use what you can.
I still have so much to do as far as hoarding! I get way too attached to things… but I am working on it. In the past few days of being home and implementing these ideas, you wouldn’t believe the change that my husband has seen in our house. We are currently living in the state of boxes, boxes, and boxes. But, it is slowly being transformed into a clean and livable house! Since a baby girl is coming into our lives in two short months, and then we are moving two short months after that, I decided that now is the time to pack away things that we don’t need, downsizing and saving space, getting new storage bins, labeling literally everything, using my car for extra help, and getting in my last rotation.
After all of your hard work, remember – Cleanliness is next to Godliness! 🙂
I can’t believe Christmas is already over! What a fun break!! I got to go home for the holidays and completely unplug and recharge my battery. I hope you all had a wonderful holiday season, and some of you I’m sure are still holidaying! It was a great time for me to think about my life and to see if it was where I wanted it to be. Uhhh – yeah I need to make some changes! But changes are good so I’m ready to get started! So here goes my new motto – “No excuses – make yourself”.
The past 6 months have been… tough. My poor husband lives off of fast food. The house is always a disaster. I can’t keep up with the tasks at hand. But why? Because I am pregnant. Now don’t get me wrong – pregnancy is hard! I never gave my sisters and friends enough credit!! I also want to step on a soapbox for a moment. Never judge a pregnant woman for anything that you wouldn’t do while being pregnant. I myself have done this and it came back to bite me in the butt big time! Don’t do it. Everyone’s pregnancy is different. Some have it easy, some have it hard, and some are on bed rest the. entire. time. We don’t know so therefore we just keep our mouths shut. Okay thanks, I am off of my soapbox.
This is my first pregnancy and so I didn’t know what to expect and I feel like it has been a hard one. I am sick a lot, I am swollen, and talk about growing pains. All I want to do is sit on the couch and watch TV! Alright, I am making my point I promise. My wonderful mother listened to my complaining and told me that she knows how hard it can be, but “sometimes you just have to make yourself”. It wasn’t what I wanted to hear, but dang it was what I needed to hear!
My new motto in the next 2 1/2 months is to stop making excuses and make myself. Do I feel good? No. Can I still get things done? Yes. Now, apply this to a personal situation that you have. What excuses are you making in your life? Please please please if you have a high risk pregnancy and are feeling guilty, do NOT “tough it out”. Take care of your baby and you first. Everything else will fall into place. Same goes with any other illness. But let’s be real – we are all making excuses that we really can overcome.
Find motivation! My motivation is that I am running out of time until this little baby gets here and I am not leaving my husband hanging. (We are also moving to Idaho in May and that is coming up way quicker than I thought). So… deadlines, loved ones, or a cleaner or better lifestyle, can all be motivation to get our rear in gear and step it up. Find that motivation and put it into action.
Okay soooo this can be hard! For me, anyways. I watched a video this morning that talked about millennials and why they are so hard to work with. I was interested because as someone who wants to reach out and help others love who they are, I have noticed that millennials can often be the ones who struggle with this the most. The video said that the millennial generation is the generation who has struggled the most with depression and having a low self-esteem. This was directly related to having excuses made for them, and making excuses themselves. There were things that I loved and things that I completely disagreed with, but it brought up a great point.
One way that we come to love who we are is by loving the process of getting there. We live in such an instant gratification world and it can be hard to be patient for things that take time. We can’t change overnight and so we make excuses of why we are the way we are. That can’t be healthy! And it isn’t! Realize that things can’t change overnight and start making goals of what you can do daily to reach your big and ultimate goal of where you want to be. Set a timeline and love the process.
If you want to watch the video that I am referring to you can watch it here.
The first thing that you need to do is figure out what is stopping you. What excuse is holding you back from being where you want to be? Once you figure out what it is, then you need to ask yourself how to get rid of it. “Make Yourself”. It’s going to be hard. You are probably going to mess up and have to start over a few times. You won’t get there tomorrow, but you CAN improve by tomorrow. Set goals that will help you improve each day. Love the process and love the small accomplishments. It is so important to love who you are – flaws and all – while telling yourself that you can and will be better tomorrow. Then actually believe it. Don’t judge another’s progress, as their 100% is different than your 100%. You Dew You, friends. Find yourself and don’t let go.